Conflict happens. These quotes seem to suggest that it is how you handle the situation, your attitude going into the conflict, and the conflict resolution that matters.

  1. If you understood everything I said, you’d be me — Miles Davis
  2. Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped — African proverb
  3. Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future — Paul Boese
  4. If war is the violent resolution of conflict, then peace is not the absence of conflict, but rather, the ability to resolve conflict without violence — C.T. Lawrence Butler
  5. One of the most basic principles for making and keeping peace within and between nations is that in political, military, moral, and spiritual confrontations, there should be an honest attempt at the reconciliation of differences before resorting to combat — Jimmy Carter
  6. Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today — Cherokee proverb
  7. Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen — Winston Churchill
  8. A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty — Winston Churchill
  9. Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth–or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them — Kenneth Cloke and Joan Goldsmith
  10. The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them — Tom Crum
  11. I believe that the basic nature of human beings is gentle and compassionate. It is therefore in our own interest to encourage that nature, to make it live within us, to leave room for it to develop. If on the contrary we use violence, it is as if we voluntarily obstruct the positive side of human nature and prevent its evolution — His Holiness the Dalai Lama
  12. Never apologise for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truthIf you understood everything I said, you’d be me — Miles Davis
  13. The more incompetent one feels, the more eager he is to fight — Fyodor Dostoyevsky
  14. Every person in this life has something to teach me—and as soon as I accept that, I open myself to truly listening — Catherine Doucette
  15. The only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is the way in which we use them — Adriana Doyle
  16. When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change — Wayne Dyer
  17. Whenever two good people argue over principles, they are both right — Marie Ebner von Eschenbach
  18. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity — Albert Einstein
  19. Any fool can know. The point is to understand — Albert Einstein
  20. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  21. You can never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the old model obsolete — Buckminister Fuller
  22. Don’t fight forces; use them — Buckminster Fuller
  23. The problem with holding a grudge is that your hands are then too full to hold onto anything else — Seth Godin
  24. To truly listen is to risk being changed forever — Sakej Henderson
  25. The great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving — Oliver Wendell Holmes
  26. Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude — William James
  27. Whenever two people meet there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as the other sees him, and each man as he really is — William James
  28. Always pass a plate of forgiveness before each verbal feast — Anabel Jensen
  29. Never ruin an apology with an excuse — Kimberly Johnson
  30. If you’re not listening, you’re not learning — L.B. Johnson
  31. The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress — Joseph Joubert
  32. Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves — Carl Jung
  33. In business, you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate — Chester Karrass
  34. Vengeance is a lazy form of grief. – Nicole Kidman
  35. Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal — Martin Luther King